Your friends play a crucial role in shaping who you are. Think of it like this: the five people you spend the most time with determine your average self.
Through others we become ourselves. In simple terms, the folks we hang out with significantly influence who we are.
Ever found yourself saying, “My friend suggested it, so I went for it!” after regrettable decisions? You’re not alone. Many of us have been there, realizing later that a more responsible friend could have prevented it.
So, how do you find the right friends?
1. Monitor Your Energy Levels
Pay attention to how you feel before and after spending time with certain friends. If someone drains your energy with negativity, it might be time to reconsider. As Dan Pena wisely put it, “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who want to see you succeed.
2. Seek Those Smarter Than You
If you always feel like the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room. Surround yourself with people smarter and more skilled than you. Smart people make each other smarter. Remember, you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
3. Choose Your Friends Wisely
Aristotle categorized friendships into three types:
– Friendships of pleasure
– Friendships of utility
– Friendships of the good
The most valuable is the “friendship of the good,” built on mutual respect and a desire to see each other succeed. Look for friends who inspire you, challenge you, offer trustworthy advice, are willing to help without expecting anything in return, and leave you feeling energized and inspired.
Evaluate your current friend circle. Are they the people you want to call friends in five years? If not, you have the power to make a change that could shape your future.
In the words of Proverbs 13:20, “He who walks with wise men shall be wise, but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
Choose your friends wisely, for they hold the key to your future.
To your success,
Marius
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